MaXIMIze - Relationships - Being In Sync

I've been thinking a lot about this lately, as I watch the project I am assigned to hit a major milestone in its move towards the finish line and watch another one in the same office stumble about, trying to get its groove back.

If you have ever worked on a team, project-specific or otherwise, you know there is a process that the team goes through as it settles into its groove and begins to move forward. There are usually four steps in this process - forming, storming, norming and performing. These are called Tuckman's stages of group development. There is a fifth step or stage at the end called adjourning, but we are focused on getting through the first four in order to live our best life now.

When a team gets to the performing step or stage, the members are pretty much in sync and they work very well together. The team I am on is like that. We communicate well and we know the project and how it is structured deeply enough to just do what needs to be done without a lot of questions or discussion. We are truly in that sweet spot of team development.

A large part of that synchronicity comes from the relationships between the team members. If a team member comes in who is potentially detrimental to the team due to viewpoints, attitudes, or actions,  that person either learns to conform and focus on moving the project forward or he/she makes enough friction that it causes him/her to be removed and replaced for the good of the project.

This comes into play in our personal relationships too, particularly our partnerships with others. It is a little difficult to ostracize family when they are a burr in the side of living your best life now - although sometimes that has to be done in order to regain sanity and peace of mind. However, the people we choose to bring into our lives as friends and partners definitely should be a balm and a help to living our best lives now, not a burr in the side draining our focus from that goal.

Last year at this time, we discussed toxic relationships and the detriment they can have physically and mentally on us. We also talked about shedding these toxic relationships in order to move toward living our best lives now.

When you are blessed to have relationships in your life that are in sync and encouraging you to live your best life now, there is truly nothing you cannot accomplish!

So, what step/stage are your current relationships in? Do you truly see them moving forward to being in sync and supporting your best life now?

If so, great!

If not, what needs to change to move forward? Are you willing to instigate that change?

Until next time, Namaste!