You must let go of what no longer serves in order to grow.
Relationships are perhaps the hardest things next to habits to let go of, particularly family relationships.
There are all kinds of relationships that can get to a point of no longer serving, and, in fact, can drag you down instead of lifting you up. Business partnerships, romantic partnerships, friendships, and family ties.
In order to truly let go of a relationship of any kind, you must discover what led you to that relationship in the first place, what has changed within you over the course of that relationship, and why that relationship no longer serves you living your best life now.
I think the hardest relationships to do this type of deep introspection with are lifelong friends and family - if it is a parent-child or sibling relationship and you are the child or sibling, you did not choose the relationship. The loyalty engendered by and/or expected from family is very hard to walk away from, though.
The same could be said of lifelong friends - ones you've known since crib, cradle, playpen, daycare or elementary school days.
Both family and lifelong friends tie you to your past, to what made you what you are today. Sometimes, though, you must cut the ties with your past in order to cut the ties with the destructive habits and patterns that drag you down instead of lifting you up to live your best life now.
Letting go of these relationships does not mean you do not care about these people in your life. It simply means you are practicing extreme self-care.
Perhaps the relationship will heal and continue forward. Perhaps not. That is a choice you make and those are boundaries you set.
So, the challenge this week is to examine your relationships and determine which ones are lifting you up to living your best life now and which ones either need to change to be let go.
Next week we will discuss dealing with guilt.
Until then, Namaste!
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